Plus, signs that someone you know may be a victim of domestic violence.
The statistics are staggering.
One in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.
Estimates are anywhere between 3.3 million and 10 million children witness domestic violence each year and 30% to 60% of these children will be abused themselves.
Let that soak in. You may be experiencing this now or you probably know someone who has. We can’t ignore Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
What is domestic violence?
A pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner.
Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, psychological, or technological actions or threats of actions. This includes any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone.
If you are being abused, remember:
- You are not to blame for being battered or mistreated.
- You are not the cause of your partner’s abusive behavior.
- You deserve to be treated with respect.
- You deserve a safe and happy life.
- Your children deserve a safe and happy life.
- People are waiting to help.
How To Get Help; Make a Plan to Escape
911: If you are in immediate danger
National Domestic Violence Hotline
800-799-SAFE (7233)
800-787-3224 (TTY)
Advocates are also available to chat 24/7.
Other ways to get out:
- Woman called 911 to “order a pizza” and got the help she needed.
- Watch how this woman signals for help without her partner finding out.
How to Help a Victim of Domestic Violence
- If you or someone you care about is in immediate danger, call 911.
- Learn the warning signs – People cover up signs of abuse for many reasons so watch for:
| Physical: Black eyes Busted lips Red or purple marks on the neck Sprained wrists Bruises on the arms | Emotional: Low self-esteem Overly apologetic or meek Fearful Changes in sleeping or eating patterns Anxious or on edge Substance abuse Symptoms of depression Loss of interest in once enjoyed activities and hobbies Talking about suicide | Behavioral: Becoming withdrawn or distant Canceling appointments or meetings at the last minute Being late often Excessive privacy concerning their personal life Isolating themselves from friends and family |
- Start a conversation – Let them know you’re worried about them and listen without judgement. It may take a few times before they are ready to share.
- Make time for them – Reach out when things are calm and set aside plenty of time in case the victim decides to open up
- Believe domestic violence victims and validate their feelings – Respond to them by saying, “I believe you. You don’t deserve this. This is not your fault.”
- Offer support and help form a safety plan – Connect your loved one to resources like those mentioned above.